lthough some people still view anal sex as a bit of a taboo topic, it has become very popular in recent history. More people than you think have tried and enjoyed it (we mean it). Butt play can really be exploited in many different ways and used for mutual pleasure of both partners, not just the sparkles of one person.
If you‘re looking for some new, exciting activities to attempt in bed, anal play is a great thing to consider. But before you try it, there are some info worth knowing that can help you to prepare for anal sex adventures. So we‘re here today to make your first experience smooth and pleasurable (you’re welcome).
What is anal sex?
Let‘s start from the beginning and find out what exactly do we call anal sex. Some people think of it as a repetitive penis-anus motion, but seriously, guys, it‘s a lot more than that. Actually, penis is not a necessary element to participate in this sexual activity – fingers, mouth, vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and other special things can be used during anal play. This makes it universal and possible for many different couples in any sexual orientation, whether they’re gay, bisexual or straight.
Butt sex is any type of erotic activity that involves the anal area. It’s up to you to decide what you want to experiment with. But most importantly, this intimate experience requires both partners to open up and be honest with each other. Trust is a very important element as well. That’s why in many cases it helps to strengthen relationship and take it to the next level. Here’re some things you should know to improve the quality of your first ass-perience.
Safety comes first
There are a lot of reasons why you should use protection during anal intercourse even if you‘re in a monogamous relationship. Best solution to prevent any sex-related problems is traditional or internal condoms. As you should know, the anal tissue is very fragile and can tear up easily, so having unprotected bum sex can sometimes cause the bacteria to enter your system. And trust me, you reaaaally don’t want that. Plus, condoms are the only way (no kidding) to prevent sexually transmitted infections.
Only condoms can prevent STDs.
In addition to that, hate to break it to you, but you can actually get pregnant while performing anal play. If semen spills on women’s labia or splashes inside the vagina, pregnancy can occur. So if you‘re not careful, it can lead to a little surprise in nine months. Even though it‘s rare, it happens – better be aware and use a condom for the sake of peace.
You should try extra lubricated condoms to get the best results and decrease the chances of tearing up a condom or your butt. We recommend extremely thin, soft, and lubricated Okamoto 001 or Durex Invisible rubbers for your best sensations.
Lube is a must
There’s no such thing as too much lube. Unlike the vagina, anus doesn‘t create any natural lubrication during arousal. So, you have to prep a big bottle of lube (five-gallon bucket is always a great idea) – not only for a more pleasurable experience, but also to avoid bruises and scratches, as the anal area is very thin and sensitive. Rough entry without lube can tear your skin and increase the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
Silicone-based lube works best for anal play, since it‘s very slippery, thick and lasts for a long time. Our top choice is Wet’s Uranus anal lubricant which is smooth and super long-lasting. It’ll make your first experience more comfortable, pleasurable, and so damn good. And if you want a lube to have relaxing effect, you can try soft and long-lasting pjur’s Back Door lubricant. Another great thing about this product is that you can use it safely with condoms. (Note: Just keep in mind that silicone-based lubes are not always suitable to use with sex toys, so make sure you read the description before buying one.)
Hygiene is very important
For the very best experience, you should always take enough time to wash yourself and your toys. Cleaning before and after anal play can reduce the risk of various infections and diseases. Plus, showering prior to butt sex makes you feel more confident. Just be gentle, otherwise you might damage the anus, which can increase the risk of STIs.
If you like to add toys to your pleasure moment, consider using a special toy cleaner to ensure maximum protection against bacteria. And if you want to shift from butt to vagina, always use a new condom – you don’t want the anal bacteria to visit your lady parts.
Communicate with your partner
At first, bum sex can feel strange not only for you but for your partner as well, so it‘s important to talk to your partner about it. Before the sex you should do as much research as you can and discuss all the preparation details. What would you like to try? What sounds a bit too much for you? Clear these things out so you could fully enjoy your first experience.
Also, it’s important to be vocal not only before but also during sex. If something’s not right – say it. Maybe you need to add more lube, change the angle, or slow down a bit? You can also think of a safe word to use in case of an emergency. And if it feels amazing – let your partner know as well. That will boost their confidence and make them feel even better.
You should start by getting into a comfortable position. Remember that you and your partner have all the time in the world, so don‘t jump straight to the shoving. Include foreplay and give yourself some time to warm up – that’ll make you feel more relaxed and ready for the sex part. It‘s also very useful to exercise with fingers, small toys and butt plugs beforehand. After some attempts, it will become simpler and better. There’s a great saying – practice makes perfect.
Relax and breathe
The anus has a muscle that must relax in order to get comfortable and pleasurable penetration. At first, it can be pretty difficult to release tension but you have to be patient and take it slow. Some things like a hot bath, meditation, scented candles, relaxing music, comfortable setting, and good preparation can make you feel calmer and more confident.
Have real expectations
Porn is not a good place to learn how to perform butt play. Sometimes it can change our view on making love – it looks like a piece of cake. What you see in sex movies, in reality never happens that quickly and smoothly. And it’s OKAY.
You just have to accept that anal sex is supposed to be practiced slowly and carefully with lots of lube to get the best results. In that way it’s more enjoyable for both sides. After some attempts, with more and more experience, you and your partner will feel like real porn stars.
All in all, butt stuff is a great way to explore your sexuality and if you or your partner ever thought about it before – you have to add it on your pleasure menu. We hope our tips will help you to reach the new sexual adventures. Be safe, prepare, don’t rush and enjoy all the pleasure the butt has to offer. And hey, don’t forget to always go for new exciting experiences.